Some times, being a Single Mama I feel I have nothing more to give.
My brain just wont work, my heart feels broken, my body wont move. I'm empty. I have nothing to give that anyone would want...so much has been taken from me. I feel like my life is a mountain of destruction and that no good could possibly come from it. What do I have to give ? Absolutely nothing. When I'm in this mindset I'm fulling giving myself to Satan's lies. My thoughts and negativity allow him to win. It's like being defeated in every aspect of my life. My mothering skills are effected. My financial decisions are negative. My over all well-being is depleted. Sound familiar? Be honest...we've all felt this way a time or two! So what to do to avoid this kind of destruction? Give. I give to the One who gave everything for me. I give my time to Him. I give my finances to Him. My children, my home, my past & future. I give it to Him. When you shift your focus to giving it can be a heart changing experience. Jesus gave up everything for me knowing that he would be mistreated, tormented, and betrayed. He only asks for my heart to be pledged to Him and for my soul to seek His will in my life. Don't be fooled by your own negative thoughts. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide your heart and show you where you can start giving. Let your heart be lifted in knowing that God gave to you and you have something you can give to Him. Start with your heart. Find ways to devote your time to Him. Pray about giving tithe from your earnings. Once you allow that door of giving from your heart to open, your heart will change. And with a changing heart comes Blessings... Acts 20:35 ‘You will have a greater blessing when you give than when you receive.’”
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Lessons Learned from this Single Mama: 1.Forget "right" and "wrong." Do it Gods way. You'll all be fine. Romans 12:2 say Don’t change yourselves to be like the people of this world, but let God change you inside with a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to understand and accept what God wants for you. You will be able to know what is good and pleasing to him and what is perfect. Don't try to do your life the way the world says you should. Let God guide your family. The world will say "What! You feed your kids that for supper?" Great, you have a family dinner. Your kid turns in a project at school that they actually worked out, worked on and completed on their own with little help from you? Good. Your teaching them to be independent citizens. Doing what works for you and your kids takes the pressure off and makes both mom and kidos happy. 2. Plan ahead. Having a plan doesn't mean you are a control freak. God doesn't want us to be lazy. In Proverbs 6:6-8 the ant is admired for planning ahead. Have not just Plan B but Plans C and D too. This way, when things don’t go according to Plan A (and usually they don't ), you won’t feel like the entire ship is going down. 3. Make “me time” a must-do. Single moms know more than anyone else the truth in the saying, “If Mama aint happy, aint nobody happy!” 1 Corinthians 6:19 & 20 refers to our bodies as a temple that was bought with a very high price. We are worth taking care of. Even if you can’t get to yoga every day, taking 15 minutes to thumb through a magazine, soak in the tub, chat on the phone with a friend or simply sit on the porch swing. It will do wonders for your mood and energy. 4. Make it simple. Enjoy the simple life. Just because you choose to not have your kids in absolutely every extracurricular, you some nights feed the family precooked food, or you choose not to run yourself ragged 24/7 does not mean you are doing it wrong. There is great value in simplicity. 5. Have lots of fun routine rituals. Pizza night, movie night, home varsity football game night , etc. Knowing what’s happening, and when, will allow for you to still keep your "calm, this is on the schedule feeling" and still make things fun for kids. 6. Use the village. I've said it before, I don't do well asking for help. But I'm blessed beyond measure when I reach out of my comfort zone and allow friends, church family, & neighbors, to help us on occasion. You may even find out that they actually enjoy helping people out. Let them! 7. Laugh out Loud. Being like " The Jones" isn't fun; in fact, it’s boring. There are no funny memories being made in The Jones house. Make sure your kids see you smile and laugh daily! Choose to laugh,being joyful and happy. You need laugh out loud worthy material ? Let things go "wrong", and then enjoy telling that story for years to come! |
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