This may or may not have anything to do with being a single Mama...but I have a had time receiving help graciously. My mother says this is just hereditary :-) When help is offered....It makes me uncomfortable. Feelings of inadequacy swell. It often makes me sad. I feel the giver is seeing into a part of me that I don't want to share. Im an avid DIY ( Do it Yourselfer) You see the DIY all over Facebook and Pinterest. All theses projects made to Do-It-Yourself. No help needed. No reason to rely on anyone else. All these DIY suggest that we dont NEED others that we can do it all ourselves. Now putting those wonderful DIY projects aside...lets talk life. Scripture never expresses for us to go through life with a DIY attitude. The path to salvation alone reflects a need to rely on another.. Our Sweet Savior. In fact it plainly says in Hebrews 10:25 that we are to meet with each other to be an encouragement to each other. 1 John 1:3 calls us to have fellowship with other Christians. James 5:18 says we are to confess our sins to each other and pray together. Hebrews 12:15 tells us make sure that no one misses out on God grace, that not having Grace and Faith is the root of bitterness. Christians were never meant to Do It Ourselves. We are called to interact, to fellowship, to show grace. We're to be the fruit of Gods Spirit showing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. So what do all these things have to do with my stubborn ( possible hereditary) attitude of not accepting help? When I choose to refuse the help offered me, whether that be a meal, an invitation to help with the kids or the house, providing something that we do in fact need, or even my most uncomfortable...monetary help. When I choose to refuse the help I'm refusing to show grace to the giver. I lose my joy that God asks me to show, I let it steal my peace and often my self control. And does the well- meaning- sincere- of -heart- giver of the blessing see me as showing love at their help? 9 times out of 10 probably not. Psalm 121 says that my help comes from The Lord. When I pray and ask for help it isn't always His plan to have my needs fall from the sky. I'm learning that sometimes those prayers are answered through the blessings I receive through others. My help comes from The Lord in the way He so chooses. With every blessing I have the choice to show grace or plant a seed of bitterness in myself or in the giver. Knowing these things still does not make it easier to receive help. All I can do is ask that My Sweet Savior will please keep showing me and my family how to receive blessings with Grace and to have the will to then bless others. A few people who daily bless me and how they help me!
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Christy
8/21/2014 02:43:51 am
Awe thanks sweets ;-)
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