This may or may not have anything to do with being a single Mama...but I have a had time receiving help graciously. My mother says this is just hereditary :-) When help is offered....It makes me uncomfortable. Feelings of inadequacy swell. It often makes me sad. I feel the giver is seeing into a part of me that I don't want to share. Im an avid DIY ( Do it Yourselfer) You see the DIY all over Facebook and Pinterest. All theses projects made to Do-It-Yourself. No help needed. No reason to rely on anyone else. All these DIY suggest that we dont NEED others that we can do it all ourselves. Now putting those wonderful DIY projects aside...lets talk life. Scripture never expresses for us to go through life with a DIY attitude. The path to salvation alone reflects a need to rely on another.. Our Sweet Savior. In fact it plainly says in Hebrews 10:25 that we are to meet with each other to be an encouragement to each other. 1 John 1:3 calls us to have fellowship with other Christians. James 5:18 says we are to confess our sins to each other and pray together. Hebrews 12:15 tells us make sure that no one misses out on God grace, that not having Grace and Faith is the root of bitterness. Christians were never meant to Do It Ourselves. We are called to interact, to fellowship, to show grace. We're to be the fruit of Gods Spirit showing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. So what do all these things have to do with my stubborn ( possible hereditary) attitude of not accepting help? When I choose to refuse the help offered me, whether that be a meal, an invitation to help with the kids or the house, providing something that we do in fact need, or even my most uncomfortable...monetary help. When I choose to refuse the help I'm refusing to show grace to the giver. I lose my joy that God asks me to show, I let it steal my peace and often my self control. And does the well- meaning- sincere- of -heart- giver of the blessing see me as showing love at their help? 9 times out of 10 probably not. Psalm 121 says that my help comes from The Lord. When I pray and ask for help it isn't always His plan to have my needs fall from the sky. I'm learning that sometimes those prayers are answered through the blessings I receive through others. My help comes from The Lord in the way He so chooses. With every blessing I have the choice to show grace or plant a seed of bitterness in myself or in the giver. Knowing these things still does not make it easier to receive help. All I can do is ask that My Sweet Savior will please keep showing me and my family how to receive blessings with Grace and to have the will to then bless others. A few people who daily bless me and how they help me!
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Do you know Jesus as your Savior ? Your Eternal, Forever Father & Faithful Friend? 1 Corinthians 6:20 For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body. God’s purpose is life and peace: God desires for you to have life and peace now and for all eternity.”I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10b Recognizing the problem: sin and separation: We were created to know, love and glorify God. When we choose to go our own way, living life in willful disobedience to God, we are choosing to be separated from God both now and for all eternity.The Bible says we are sinners…“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23 But God is love…“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 And God is also just…“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23 We cannot save ourselves: Because God is Holy, He cannot allow sin to enter into Heaven. Most people attempt to save themselves by their own efforts, good works or church attendance. The Bible says…“There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.” Proverbs 14:12 How then can a sinful person enter Heaven where God allows no sin? We are saved by grace: The good news is… in spite of our sin, Christ died for us.“For it is by grace you have been saved through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not of works, so that no one can boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9” But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8 Responding to God’s gift by faith: “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Romans 10:9 Would you like to accept Jesus as Lord of your life? “But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions — it is by grace you have been saved.” Ephesians 2:4-5 If you would like to accept Jesus as Lord of your life, you can pray the following prayer: Lord, I confess that I have sinned and I ask You to forgive me. I’m sorry that my sin has hurt You and other people in my life. I know that I can never earn salvation, but I come to You and trust in what your son Jesus did for me on the cross. I believe that You love me and that Jesus died and rose again so that I can be forgiven and come to know You. I ask You to come into my heart and be Lord of my life. I trust You with everything, and I thank You for loving me so much that I can know You here on earth and spend the rest of eternity with You in heaven. In Jesus name, Amen. What do I do now?CELEBRATE! Cause the angles in heaven sure are! Your now apart of Gods family and I'm delighted to call you my sister - in - Christ! Now...Just like a new baby needs to be cared for and nurtured in order to grow physically, a child of God needs to be nurtured in order to grow spiritually. Here’s how you can begin growing in Christ: Tell someone: Tell a pastor or Christian friend who will help you grow and find your gifts of service. “So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up.” Ephesians 4:11, 12 Be baptized: This is your first act of obedience. “So he ordered that they be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ.” Acts 10:48 Join the church: The church is where God’s family encourages and supports one another.”How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity!” Psalm 133:1 Pray and read your Bible daily: God communicates His will for your life through His Word and prayer.”Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Psalm 119:105 Seek a godly mentor: A mentor teaches you the ways of God and how to live a holy life. “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.” Titus 2:3 Alarm clocks. Usually a joy stealer right? Well this year in my house they are a big peace giver! My sweet kidos are of an age where ( for some reason unbeknownst to me ) they dislike their Mama coming in saying " Good morning Sunshine"! And of course singing to them our own family Good Morning Song from days of old is a big No No :) So to promote peaceful mornings this year I got them each an alarm clock from the church rummage sale. Secretly thinking that, guess what? This will NEVER work. I figured ,give us a day or two and we'd be right back to " What? My alarms going off? Well I didn't hear it!" Well guess what...were on week #2 of school and mornings in our home are filled with the sweet peace of ease and relaxation. Its true! My sweet girl chooses to get up a bit earlier then the rest of us to have more primp time in the mornings, while my wonderful son has mastered the habit of getting up, quickly dressing for success and being ready to head out the door. So along with that sly little- good job mom- pat yourself on the back- kinda feeling I also have a morning filled with quiet time as I prepare for our day. Time to cover my children, friends and family in prayer as they all head out to face the day ahead. Time to robe myself with strength and dignity for whatever challenges might come. Time to Come to the Garden Alone with my Blessed Savior and Friend. Our household attitude has chosen to change an item that the world sees as a joy stealer into a blessing. And all us Mama's know that Good Attitudes Make Good Days! Psalm 30:5 ~ For His anger is but for a moment, and His favor is for a lifetime. Weeping may tarry for the night, but Joy Comes with the Morning. |
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